Wednesday, November 11, 2009

Family response

My prior post is the text of an email that I sent to H's family to give them a sense of where he is.

Of the 3 recipients (two sisters and parents), only one sister replied:

"...that is sad news, very sad indeed. Thanks for the update. I know some people who can help with H's caregiving…just let me know and I'll fwd their contact information."

Trouble is that a full-time (or even part-time) caregiver is waaay more than I can afford ($800 - $1,000/week) and that wasn't really the point of my email. (I do worry about that as H declines further that I won't be able to keep him at home…even tho' part of me would just like him to leave.)

Really, all I wanted to do was to give the family a sense of where H is. Interesting to me that I got only one response and that was to get some "hired help.

I was hoping to hear that they all will spend as much time with H as they can while they can.


Greg said...

I don't think your message was at all ambiguous on that point. I agree that it's a disappointing response.

Y | O | Y said...

This sucks for H more than anyone. Thankfully he isn't in a mental place where he can really feel how hurtful it is.

In the end, we can only be responsible for ourselves and you did the right thing. The fact that they don't is on them.

Do the sisters have children? They're training, by example, how you treat sick family members and will reap what they sow somewhere down the road.

ChickPea said...

Thank you for sharing so much in your blog, ASM. Know and feel in your heart the love we send, and I hope you'll somehow feel less alone. Keep being YOU, buddy. x

citygirl said...

I've learned from recent experiences that just because you're family by blood doesn't mean much. I'm sorry you got such a crappy response from your well intentioned message.

Crazy creative said...

WOW, just fell upon your blog, and in my heart I send you strength, love and hope.