Wednesday, October 24, 2007

But what about them…

I was talking with H this morning over a late breakfast. He was telling me that he's been talking with his family about "arrangements." Something along the lines of 3 weeks at one sister's house, back home with some weekends with his local sister, then off to his parents for another 3 weeks or so.

I know that travelling is hard for him; being away from home is hard for him. But he isn't talking about that.

What he's telling me is that "mom and dad have their own issues…dad pretty much has to care for mom these days…and I would just be adding to that." "And (out of state sister), the last time I was there, the kids had issues because of (this or that) reason and I can't get my own bathroom there and you know how I plug the toilet sometimes." "And (local) sister, she has a full house and how can she have me there so much? She's got kids, pets, there's no privacy."

I don’t say anything other than, "Well, yes, they all have their own lives. Dad has made his own bed because he allows his sick wife to run his life. At least he's retired."

Not a surprise, but nothing about what I need in all this.

Can you tell I'm just a bit angry?

3 comments:

Y | O | Y said...

You're exactly right. Poor everybody else, but what about you?

Y | O | Y said...

Oh, and if he and the family thinks he's so healthy and self sufficient, then he shouldn't be any bother to them at all.

Robert said...

Yes, your penultimate paragraph says it all.