Saturday, October 27, 2007

Shades of gray

It's pretty peaceful around here right now. Plans have been made for H to visit his sister in another state and his family had arranged what I would term "shuttle care," living in 4 different places over a 3 month period. A few weeks here, a few weeks there, etc.

They are panicking due to H's fears and especially their own. And, they are trying to help in the only way that they know how.

Now, I've done a fair amount of business travel and this schedule is tough even for a healthy guy like me. Coupled with they don't know that so much travel and change is very, very hard for H. I don't see how this would work for very long.

What's ironic here is that they are creating a sort of divorce, where they take H away for so much of the time. They don't seem to understand that I want H to go to (place) because then I can see him regularly, he gets the care he needs, and I can focus on work.

With H at (place), we can hopefully continue the best parts of our relationship without his health and care needs or my exhaustion getting in the way. I wish that they could see that I am acting out of love and with H at (place), we have the best chance of experiencing our love again

1 comment:

Robert said...

I think that, once H's family get to see him up close and their new-found compassion is all used up, you'll be given a free hand to do what you believe to be best.

Enjoy the peace. There may be less peaceful times ahead...